So you’ve found an interesting profile on dating sites, or you’ve been approached by someone interesting. You have also exchanged a few tentative emails, so now what?
- Remember that with each relationship progression, going back is harder than you think. Once you get to the phone call stage, you may not get many more emails any more. Be sure you really want to get to know someone better enough before you make any leaps (small, or otherwise.)
- Mention something about their profile that caught your eye; this is a pretty good way to get a dialogue started. Talk about the things you have in common and mutual likes and dislikes.
- Don’t make sexual innuendos; don’t ask questions like ‘How long do you have to know someone before you become intimate or come into sexual relation?’ or ‘What is your most favorite sex position?’ – This will make most people uncomfortable. If someone on paid or free dating sites is coming on to you in a sexual manner and they don’t even know you, it’s best to stop replying; block their emails if they are continuing to trouble you.
- Don’t start saying you think you’ve met your soul mate after just two or three emails; this implies desperation. (If you really are thinking that, tell them later on that this site have Match Me Happy)
- Chances are, other people (friends) may read what you’ve written as well, so keep that in your mind very well lest you be embarrassed later.
- Don’t believe everything they tell you – it’s estimated that at least 1/3 of people on the dating sites are married or otherwise committed. Because they are anonymous, there are no consequences for lying here, and there are several game-players out there so, beware of those people.
- If you correspond with several people, don’t get them mixed up and reply to someone about something someone else asked you about for. If anyone does this to you or if they are inconsistent in what they’re telling you from one email to the next, show them the clear highway and tell them get to out. There are a lot of nice and genuine people out there on this platform – don’t waste time with the slime, no matter how attractive that photo is.
- Relax and be yourself so that your true personality will speak itself revealing about your traits.
- Re-read your email before you send it – remember that humor sounds different in writing than it does telling in person (where your facial expressions and body language can pass the tone).
- Be thoughtful – ask them about something they have said previously to follow up. If they tell you about a job interview, ask how it went and few other related questions. If they mention their mother broke her hip, make sure and don’t forget to ask how she is.
- Flirt – a little.
After a few emails, instant messaging is the next logical progression of the all online relationship.
- As with emails, either use the site’s service, or set up an anonymous username. Instant messaging is a great way to find out a little bit more about someone. It’s spontaneous, so chances of getting more of the true essence of a person are more. An email can be polished and perfected over time, but instant messaging is immediate and doesn’t permit enough time to filter out answers. Remember that a session can be cut and pasted and saved, so always be extra careful what you say here as well.
- Chat several times before going over to the first phone call.
The first phone call- This is might prove to be a little awkward. Don’t take it personally if they don’t seem as friendly over the phone as on chatting. Talking on the phone is way more intimate than chatting online for some people on dating sites. Give them some time to adjust. Do your best to be the same person on the phone that you have been while chatting online. Initially, you will want to keep your home and business phone numbers private for safety reasons.
The first date- this is the final step of any online relation. First meeting should be at a public place.
Try to use own transportation or rent a car. Once you get confident enough about your partner you are successful in this loving game. After all it is human nature that all We Love Dates all of us. Don’t we?